Monday, May 30, 2016

Always be Authentic - It's an Alpha Thing!


Strength of character is an Alpha trait… and it’s naturally expressed in the way a man dresses. In the photo of American actor Channing Tatum above, he’s looking strong in a fresh white under-shirt, a grey woollen cardigan with a roll-collar, and a blue woolen coat. 

Those items are all classic pieces that could be worn with either chinos or jeans to create a stylish casual look… perfect for a movie or a coffee-date on a cold night. 

But instead they’ve been put together with faded grungy looking jeans that have holes in one knee… and brown lace-up boots that have an old military look.  And that creates a very different statement about who he is, or who he’s supposed to be!  I'll explain why....

If the average guy on the street was to wear those jeans he would be sending the message that he’s someone who works with his hands… maybe a labourer or a tradesman… or maybe he rides a bike.  But if he’s none of those things, then he’s a not being authentic… he’s not being honest.

Or maybe he's wearing jeans like that to be trendy. Or maybe he saw a famous movie star wearing them on the cover of a magazine, and thought they looked cool.  But if they aren’t an expression of who he really is, then he’s not being honest with himself… nor with the women he hopes to attract.

But this approach to fashion is quite common these days.  A lot of guys dress to put an exaggerated ‘spin’ on how they look… and below are two examples I see quite often at my local shopping centre :

The Sportsman :  He wears the latest brightly coloured runners, baggy sports shorts, and a famous brand-name t-shirt, or maybe even a martial arts or MMA t-shirt.  Sometimes he'll wear a cap (backwards), as well as sunglasses pushed up onto the cap.

The way he dresses says I like to see myself as an active sporty kind of guy.  And I’d like you to see me that way too!  But right now I’m not doing sports, I’m buying groceries in an air-conditioned shopping centre... and then I'm going home.”

The Outdoorsman :  This guy wears trekking shoes, cargo pants or shorts that have lots of pockets, and a t-shirt with either a trekking or climbing motif on the front. 

The way he dresses says I like to see myself as a rugged outdoorsy kind of guy… and I’d like you to see me that way too!  But right now I’m not trekking through the wilderness, I’m buying groceries in an air-conditioned shopping centre... and then I'm going home.”

The simple difference between being authentic and putting a ‘spin’ on how you dress is honesty.  

If an Alpha is wearing a cap, it’s because he’s outside. And if he’s wearing runners, it’s because he’s running.  If he’s wearing sports gear, it’s because he’s off to the gym or the sports field. 

But if he’s shopping for groceries, then he’s not going to be dressed for sports or the outdoors, he's going to be dressed simple, strong and functional in something like this :
  • a fitted t-shirt or shirt in a dark or solid colour
  • jeans, chinos, or shorts that fit well in the crotch and arse
  • leather footwear and a leather belt (avoid wearing runners).

Consequently, any woman he meets is going to be impressed by his masculine Alpha Styling, and his honesty.  He’s not trying to a ‘spin’ on who he really is… he’s showing everyone exactly who he is. That’s called being ‘authentic’.....

Finally, above is an example of a man being honest in his expression of Alpha Styling.  It’s the actor Mark Wahlberg from the movie “Daddy’s Home”.  He’s looking rugged in a weathered motorcycle jacket, a black t-shirt, fitted jeans, and a leather belt that screams ‘classic bike’.  And that’s an authentic look, because in the movie he’s a dad who rides an Indian motorcycle

In short - what you see is what you get.  And what you see is a man who looks manly, tough, and a little dangerous… which is both attractive and exciting to most women.

It's a Primal Thing.

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