Saturday, May 23, 2015

Why Celebrities follow the Average Guy

I’m always amused when I see a photo of a celebrity who’s dressed like an average guy, and standing next to a luxury car.  Because you can bet that he doesn’t actually see himself as an average guy.  In this case it's Mr. Justin Bieber… an international celebrity… a VIP.

However his preference for 'street' fashion is easily explained from a psychological perspective!

The way we all dress is influenced by 3 primal values… and it doesn’t matter if you’re a celebrity or not… these values are hard-wired into our psyche :
  1. to fit in and be accepted by our social group (tribe)
  2. to be different and raise our status amongst that group
  3. to be sexually attractive to potential mates within the group.

So when we look at Mr. Bieber we see a young man who is trying very hard to look like other guys his age, and no doubt like the guys he socialises with. That's value #1.

He has ink (tattoos), and he seems to prefer baggy-crotch pants, and wearing them so low they look like they might fall down. But again that’s value #1… an attempt to give him street-cred... which is good for his career.

Now we come to his expensive car(s).  This definitely sets him apart from the average guy, and makes him very desirable as a potential mate.  That’s an expression of values #2 and #3.

However the average guy doesn’t realise that celebrities are actually following what’s being worn on the streets… simply because, like everyone else, celebrities want to fit in and be accepted too. 

So next time you’re thinking about following what some rich celebrity wears, keep in mind that he’s most probably being influenced by what the average guy on the street is wearing.

And unless you’ve got the money and fame that he has, copying what he wears is only going to make you look average, and insecure about who you are. And neither of those are a turn-on for  most ladies.

You’re much better off wearing a style of dress that makes a strong masculine statement wherever you go.  A style of dress makes a positive impression across all age-groups and cultures.  It's something that many celebrities have to pay a Personal Stylist to create for them :
  • take a minimalist approach (with little-to-no decoration)
  • highlight your best masculine features (shoulders, chest, butt, thighs)
  • and use dark and solid colours as the foundation of your wardrobe.

It’s a Primal Thing.


Wednesday, May 20, 2015

It's just My Way of Controlling the Future

Most people like to be in control of what's happening around them… because if you’re in control you’re more likely to get whatever you personally want from a situation. So it should come as no surprise that girlfriends like to be able to control their boyfriend - but without him realising it of course.

Recently I watched an episode of the television comedy Last Man Standing… and the last scene offered a funny insight into The Primal Game between men and women :

Scene :  A girlfriend decides to improve her boyfriend’s style of dressing to increase his desirability.  But then she realises that if she changes his look, he might become attractive to other women... and then he might realise that he could have his choice of girls. 

So she decides to keep him looking dorky, and feeling grateful to have her as his girlfriend.

Her decision is all about retaining control… a psychological tactic that's used by some women to make sure the guy sticks around long enough to be a protector-provider for her, and for their future children.  It's a long-term plan... much longer than most men realise when they're just dating!

A lot of guys think that if they’ve already got a girlfriend (or a wife) then the way they dress is just fine... because it was good enough to get her.  But what they don’t realise is that many women choose a man they can mould and shape… and that includes the way he dresses.

In short, they have a plan for their man. It's a primal thing. They're planning their own family!

What has to be understood however, is that the more 'Alpha' a man looks, the more it increases the status of his lady amongst the other women in her social group. Why?  Because it shows that she is good enough to attract-and-keep a strong and confident man... an Alpha male

So really it’s a win-win situation when you take charge of the way you dress, and maximise your natural masculinity with your own expression of Alpha Styling.  It will make you more attractive to your partner... and it will prompt greater respect from other men. 

But keep in mind that you might come across some resistance if your partner starts to feel insecure about the extra attention you start to attract from other women.  And if that happens, then she will need some re-assurance from you… until she realises that you’re not actually going anywhere.

For a funny example look up Last Man Standing, Season 3 Episode 10,
and skip forward to the last scene in the cafe.