Monday, January 26, 2015

Interviews from all Walks of Life - Sean Genders

Introduction : The first in this series of interviews is with Sean Genders, an Emmy Award winning Special Effects Artist who recently spent seven months in Namibia, working on the latest Mad Max movie - 'Fury Road' - due for release in May this year.

Sean also wrote and directed an award winning short film called 'The Edge of Reality', which stars John Jarratt and Dan Wyllie. It has been a feature in the annual Australian Film Festival in Pezenas (France) for the past 3 years.

Sean presently lives on the Gold Coast (Australia) to be close to Warner Bros. Film Studios. He holds black belt ranking in martial arts, and gives classes in reality-based self-protection tactics... which served him well in Namibia. 

When Hollywood arrived to film Fury Road, the local towns became flooded with beggars and petty criminals who were looking for rich easy targets.  But we'll explore those street confrontations in a future interview (coming soon).


Sean, how would you describe your personal expression of Alpha Styling?

Firstly I think it's important to highlight that Alpha Styling has a subtle psychological effect on people everywhere.  It's understated, but it can have a definite effect on your career and social life.

For me, my working locations can change daily. I can go from a set in a film studio to a location in a city, or a jungle, or even the deserts of Namibia... so comfort and durability is essential.

Everywhere I go I take my leather bag with me. Along with whatever else I need on the day, it holds my watch... a pen... a folding multi-tool... a torch... small first-aid kit... wallet and passport.

Sean - because different countries and cities have different cultural influences, what styling advice would you give to men visiting or living on the Gold Coast?

Don't feel that you have to fit-in with everyone else all the time... especially if the men are wearing baggy board-shorts that women don't particularly like the look of... which is often the case.

There are great alternatives to just wearing long shorts, thongs and singlets. Block colours, fitted clothes and shorter shorts are always going to make you look more serious, and more attractive.

Just ask yourself "Would Bond wear it? James Bond is the quintessential Alpha personality... and that styling works internationally. Men respect it, and women are attracted to it.

So if you couldn't imagine James Bond wearing something, then it's obviously not masculine enough, and it isn't going to benefit your career or your social life.

Sean when it comes to accessories, what is your preference in sunglasses?

I like to have more than one pair. If you do a bit of research on-line, it can be a relatively inexpensive way to mix up your look while still retaining a personal style. I have a preference for the Persol brand.. specifically a metal frame that's not quite an aviator style, but very similar.

If I prefer to wear a thicker plastic frame then I never choose anything too large. I don't want to come off looking like Clark Kent (from Superman). The Persols in the photo above are a good example... and below are the metal frames I wear.

What's your preference in Watches?I like Omega... maybe its the Bond theme again. But I feel that a man needs more than one watch if he can pick up a couple of good quality pieces. I personally prefer something strong and metal for business... but I like the look of a stitched mahogany leather band for casual meetings and after-hours.

What about accessories like a business pen? :  I carry a Tuff Writer Precision Press tactical pen in burnt orange... but I plan to buy one of the titanium models... the dark edgy looking one (below).

I find Precision Press pens are stylish enough for business, and strong enough to be the perfect tool for self protection. I never travel without mine... and it passes through security without any trouble.

Any other 'tools' of self protection? : My small Varta Tactical Torch. In fact it's something I actually keep beside the bed when I'm at home. It's light, bright, very strong... and when it's held in your fist it makes an effective close-quarter striking tool.

Sean, is there a travel safety tip you can offer that's based on your personal experience?
When you're travelling, always be aware of the importance of maintaining a strong presence in your dress and how you carry yourself.  You need to appear aware and confident.
Never be over flashy in how you dress. As a Westerner you're already richer than most other nations, and the locals know that. They know that you'll have cash, an i-phone, camera, and maybe even a computer. And if you carry a bag, the criminals know that you will generally keep all those valuables in it.
So choose a bag wisely... something secure that you can wear close to your body. Mine actually has a strap that goes around my back to the opposite shoulder (like a holster).
Keep in mind that attacks are rarely random. So watch for the watchers... and watch them back. The lions don't attack the strongest gazelle. If you look like a hard target they will usually move on.
To see more of Sean's work you can visit his website by clicking on this link :
It's a Primal Thing.

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Checked Tablecloths and Striped Pyjamas

I often used to think to myself "Who the hell ever thought it was a good idea to dress men in shirts that look like tablecloths and pyjamas?"  See the checked shirts above and below as examples.

Well I have a theory about how it might start with most men. I think that mothers dress their little boys that way, and think it looks colourful. And no doubt other women (friends and relatives) would have said "Oh doesn't he look cute"... and maybe even given the little boy a kiss.

Years later, the man is shopping for clothes and sees a nice checked shirt or a nice pyjama stripe shirt, and remembers all the compliments he got from the women in his life. So he buys it... quite possibly hoping to attract similar attention from women now.

The problem of course is that he's not a little boy any more.... he's a grown man. And looking nice in pretty colours and patterns is not going to prompt a primal attraction from women... nor will it prompt respect from other men.

To prove my point, following are some scenes from the television show "Two and a Half Men", when it starred Charlie Sheen as the Alpha male, and Jon Cryer as the hapless brother who has trouble being taken seriously by anyone... especially by women.

Firstly, it's interesting to note that the character of Allen (on the left) is often dressed
in bright checks and stripes... while Charlie (the Alpha brother) is dressed
in strong solid colours.  Why?  Because strong solid colours 
make a strong solid impression.

Now let's look at the concept of wearing pyjama stripes... a very relaxed (sleepy) look
that does nothing to strike a primal chord in women.  In fact it really only works
in a laid back environment like the beach, or by the pool.

So the question for many men is this - How can you tell if a striped shirt is in fact a
'pyjama' striped shirt?  Well if you can easily imagine a matching pair of
pyjama pants, then it is indeed a 'pyjama' striped shirt.

In this photo, the idea od wearing pyjama stripes is being passed down from father to son. 
Unfortunately it won't help dad be more attractive to the women he meets...
and it won't help the son as he gets older either.

This brings us to striped polo shirts... which again doesn't strike a strong primal
chord with women, regardless of how popular or fashionable they might be.
They are simply bright and colourful... a way to get people's attention. 
 But what good is getting people's attention if the next impression
they get of you is that you don't look very masculine? 

The photo above highlights the fate that befalls men who wear colourful striped polos and 
plaid shorts. The women in their life will tend to regard them more as a girlfriend...
as a bright and colourful accessory to have around the house. How cute!

Finally, this photo shows Allen wearing a very bright Aloha shirt, worn with colourful
plaid shorts.  Meanwhile, Charlie (the Alpha) is dressed in strong solid colours.

So keep in mind that decorating a man in colourful checks and stripes might
make him stand out... but it does nothing to enhance his masculinity!
Here's the real Jon Cryer dressed Alpha Style. What a difference!
It's a Primal Thing.

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Alpha Styling - Image Projection at it's most effective!

Image Projection is a term used by close protection bodyguards to describe the tactic of dressing in a way that looks professional, strong, and capable.
That basically means dressing like an Alpha personality... and it will not only affect the way your Principal (client) sees you... but also the person you're protecting them from.
Examples of what that looks like are often featured in movies and in television shows, and they're easy to spot when you know the 5 parameters of classic Alpha Styling :
  • simple
  • strong
  • and functional
  • with an obvious quality
  • and an understated elegance
Following are some examples from the spy show "Burn Notice"... but before we look at the photos let's review the origin of the 5 parameters.

The role of a man is primarily to be a protector-provider. It's how we are hard-wired to function. And for most of our history, this role has taken the form of being a warrior-hunter.  

Not surprisingly, what a warrior-hunter wears and carries must be :
  • simple (practical)
  • strong (capable)
  • functional (effective).
The last two aspects set a man apart from the other men in his social group, and make him an Alpha personality. The obvious quality shows he has high standards and expectations... and the understated elegance shows that he has an appreciation for subtle detail. 

Now here's the key that puts it all together. We (humans) are hard-wired to respond from a primal level to those characteristics.  They make a statement.  They say "Here is someone who looks strong and confident... someone worthy of respect... someone I should take seriously."

So let's have a look at a few images of actor Jeffrey Donovan from the show Burn Notice... starting with his sunglasses, which should never be overly big or flashy.  So choose a metal or plastic frame that's small-to-medium in size, with quality lenses.  It's a statement that you're serious and focused.

Shirts : a quality cotton shirt usually has a slight sheen (because of the tight weave).

Pants (below) : a quality cotton or fine wool trouser will also have a slight sheen.

Suits (below) : classic styling - solid colours - obvious quality - understated elegance.

Casual option : a solid coloured suit jacket can be worn with jeans to create a casual look...
and regardless of fashion trends, make sure your jacket is long enough to cover your butt.
And for a bit of colour and flair, just add a contrasting silk square to the breast pocket.
Belt (below) : make sure it matches your shoes - black with black, brown with brown.

Socks (below) : can match the colour of your shoes, or the colour of your trousers.

Shoes : choose a style that's simple, strong and functional, with an obvious 'edgy' quality. A
solid stitched sole adds extra strength (see photo below). Remember that your shoes are a
statement about your character... and they are something that women always notice.

So in summary, keep in mind that Alpha styling is dressing simple, strong and functional... with an obvious quality, and an understated elegance.  Make those 5 key-points your everyday guidelines.

It's a Primal Thing.

Friday, January 9, 2015

Maximising the Attraction-Factor of your Shoes

(Edgy Exotics : Lizard, Python, Stingray, Ostrich and Alligator)

Here's something very important... it's Secret Women's Business... a sliding scale of how your wife or girlfriend sees the shoes you wear when you go out with her :
  1. If she says "Those shoes are OK" –  it means that your shoes are basically a non-event… you may as well just wear socks and leave those shoes at home.
  2. If she says "Those shoes are NICE" – it means they look fine… but they don't really make a memorable impression... so you basically wasted your money buying those.
  3. If she says "Those shoes are GOOD" – it means you’re on the right track… you nearly grabbed her attention with those... but you need to try a little harder.
  4. If she says "Those shoes are GREAT" – it means that you have maximised your attraction factor, and you’ve got her complete and undivided attention!
The shoes in the photo above are good examples of the GREAT category. They look masculine, strong and edgy... and from a woman's perspective that's something different... something out of the ordinary... and potentially something exciting.

That point is so important it's worth repeating : shoes that look masculine, strong and edgy offer something different... something out of the ordinary... and potentially something exciting.

(The sheen of goat fur is a luxurious option to wearing suede)

BTW, any male friends or co-workers who tell that they don’t care what a woman thinks about their shoes (or anything else they wear) are probably lying.

The truth is more likely that they thought they were dressing 'ok', and finding out that they could do better is just too hard to even think about. So they pretend that they don't really care! 

But we are all hard-wired to want to be seen as attractive to potential sexual partners. It's part of the three primal values that influence how men and women dress :
  1. to fit-in and be accepted by our social group
  2. to stand out and raise our status within the group
  3. to be sexually attractive to potential mates within the group.

It’s interesting to note that men are more inclined to be influenced by #1 and #2… while women are more inclined to be influenced by #2 and #3.

Put another way, men are more inclined to want to fit-in with what the other men in their social group are wearing... but at the same time they want to stand out in a way that makes them a bit different.

Men are hard-wired to fit-in with what the other men in the group (tribe) are wearing, because historically men need the help and support of other men to hunt for food, or to fight for survival.
(Pale python creates an edgy casual look - great with jeans)

But when it comes to attracting a sexual partner, dressing to please the other men in your group is not going to maximise your attraction-factor to women.

So keep in mind that women notice men's shoes... because like everything else you wear, your shoes make a statement about your character, your individuality, and your self-confidence.

In short, they make a statement about what sort of man you are. So don't bother buying shoes that are boring and comfy... look around for shoes that are masculine, strong, and edgy.

It's a Primal Thing.

For more examples of Alpha Style footwear, click on this link to Shoe Passion :

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Image Projection - Every Accessory Counts

As any Close Protection Operative will tell you, applying the tactic of Image Projection is an important aspect of everyday business.  Why?  Because looking professional and capable has an effect on both your Principal (client), and the person you're protecting them from.

However Image Projection isn't just a good business practice. It makes a difference in your social life as well. But it's not just the clothes you wear, it's everything your carry with you... your watch, sunglasses, wallet... even your pen

Why does it make a difference?  Because it all makes a statement about your character. And if the way you dress and all your accessories highlight the same character traits, then you make a subtle but profound statement.

Unfortunately a lot of young men get this wrong... and they wear a mixture of conflicting styles.

The most common example I see is office workers who wear sports sunglasses with a suit. They obviously want everyone to know that they do some kind of sport... but it's not something that's valued in a corporate environment.

You are much better off wearing clothes and accessories that make one simple statement... preferably a statement that expresses the values that are respected in your environment.

When I went looking for a new pen, I wanted something with all the characteristics of Alpha Styling:

Simple, strong and functional, with an obvious quality, and an understated elegance.

Through a contact in personal security I came across Tuff Writer Tactical Pens... and I ended up choosing a Precision Press model.

I liked it because it's a wolf in sheep's clothing... it didn't look like it was engineered to have the self-defence capabilities that it does. The corporate styling makes it perfect for any business, and you can carry it through airport security without raising any suspicion.

I was so pleased with it that my wife and daughter now have one as well (for personal protection).

Finally, when it comes to applying the tactic of Image Projection, keep in mind that having a quality pen in your hand doesn’t just make a good visual impression. Anyone who borrows your pen to write something down will be impressed by its solid construction. And they will unconsciously associate that positive experience with you.

Tuff Writer also offer a sleek Tactical Torch, pictured above with a black Precision Press Pen.
To browse through the Tuff Writer website, click on to this link :

It's a Primal Thing.