Thursday, November 27, 2014

Teenagers are Revolting - But do you know Why?

When I first saw this photo of the boys from '5 Seconds of Summer' holding their ARIA Awards,
I thought to myself that it would make good business sense for them to dress with a bit more sophistication. It would not only broaden their demographic (beyond teens and tweens), but it would also prompt greater respect from the executives in the Music Industry. 

But no... it’s natural for teenagers to rebel... it’s part of establishing their own identity. And because of that, their revolt against the status quo invariably involves silly hair styles and strange fashion trends.

In the 1970’s I was wearing high platform shoes, and had a haircut that my father thought was a bit ‘girlie.’ But as far as I was concerned, he just didn’t understand! 

Because my parents were ‘rock-n-rollers’ in their teens, they were fairly tolerant of what I wore back then. However my father would sometimes remark “You’ll never get a girl dressed like that son.”

I thought that was strange, because I knew lots of girls. But what I didn't understand was that the way I dressed wasn't maximising my natural masculinity... my primal attraction-factor.

It wasn’t until my late teens that I realised I needed to dress differently (more grown-up) if I wanted be attractive to the young women I worked with and socialised with.

So, like the rest of my generation, I gradually changed to a way of dress that was both attractive to women, and respected by men. 

Moral of the story : First we revolt against the status quo... and we proudly wear the uniform of the revolution. But then we learn to play a more tactical game... to increase our chances of survival.

It’s a Primal Thing.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

As a Man, you're just supposed to Know!

A man is supposed to know how to dress like a man….. so try to resist letting your mother, wife or girlfriend choose your clothes for you.

The feminine approach to fashion is to use the concept of 'decoration' to enhance their beauty and sexuality.  So when they dress a man they tend to  choose fabrics and colours that make him look more pretty than manly.

And keep in mind that there's a big difference between looking 'nice' and looking 'attractive.' From a woman's point of view, a man who looks nice is something good to have on her arm... like a new handbag.

Remember that no man has ever heard a wife or girlfriend say "Why don't you get me in the mood by putting on your flip-flops, those long baggy shorts, and that faded old t-shirt you like so much. That's it baby. Now put your cap on backwards to create that 'little boy' look. Yes, that’s it. Now ravish me.

Think about it. How do you usually dress when you’re with your woman?  Do you look the same as you do when you're with your mates?  If you do, how is that supposed to turn her on???

Remember it's all about triggering sexual attraction by sending primal signals that highlight your natural masculinity. And you can start by dressing like this :
  • take a minimalist approach (very little decoration)
  • highlight your best physical features (shoulders, chest, butt)
  • use dark and solid colours as the foundation of your wardrobe
  • make sure that everything you wear is simplestrong and functional.

And if you're ever unsure about buying something, just ask yourself "Would James Bond wear this?" 

I know that might sound a bit strange to some people, but keep in mind that the vast majority of women find the masculine styling of James Bond to be very sexy.

So if James Bond wouldn't wear flip-flops, long baggy-bum shorts and an old faded t-shirt when he's with his woman, then maybe you shouldn't either !?

And if you're worried about your friends and family giving you a hard time about your new way of dressing... I can tell you now that you should expect it to happen.

Someone somewhere is going to try and make fun of your Alpha Styling... simply because they're worried that you might become more attractive, or more popular, or more respected than they are.

It's a Primal Thing.

Friday, November 21, 2014

I don't need to change - I've already got a woman!

I laughed when I first read the wisdom in this comic from 'Ink On The Side', because it highlights that the guy is thinking 'short term', and the girl is thinking 'long term'.
He wants to get her out of her clothes... she wants to get him into some decent clothes. He's thinking about the next couple of hours... she's thinking about the next couple of years.
Most men simply don't realise that women often see a boyfriend or a husband as a long term restoration project... something to gradually change and improve.
Men on the other hand, tend to think that if the way they look was good enough to get the attention of a women, then it's obviously working, and there's no need to change anything.
But the cold hard fact is that most women have to ignore what most men wear these days, because it's not actually attractive. However they generally won't tell the guy, because they don't want to risk it having a negative affect on their relationship.
The photo above is an example of what I mean about men not looking attractive. There's nothing sexy about what any of those guys are wearing. It's all too baggy, and they look like little boys. 
But women will often see a glimmer of potential in the guy, and take him on in the hope that she will be able to whip him into shape. Meanwhile, the guy thinks there's nothing wrong with the way he dresses, and doesn't want to change a thing. 
This approach doesn't work very well for men (in the long term)... especially if they expect to have regular sex with their partner for years to come.
If you want sex, then you have to look sexy... you have to trigger sexual attraction by sending primal signals about your masculinity
The root of the problem is that men tend to dress like other men.... or at least like the other men in their social group. It's a primal need to fit-in and be accepted by the other hunter-warriors in the tribe.
Take the photo of Leonardo DiCaprio above... he's dressed like most average men his age.
However most women would find the guy in the photo below much nicer to look at. He's wearing a fitted shirt that highlights his chest and shoulders... his shorts are fitted in the crotch and butt, and show a bit of leg... and his shoes are leather (not sneakers).
So if you want to maximise your attraction-factor... if you want to increase the number of potential mates that you can choose from... then you need to ignore much of what the other men in your group are wearing, and express your own version of Alpha Styling : 
  • take a minimalist approach (very little decoration)
  • highlight your best physical features (shoulders, chest, butt)
  • use dark or solid colours as the foundation of your wardrobe
  • make sure that every item you wear is simple, strong, and functional.
Finally, keep in mind that the more 'Alpha' you look, the more your partner's status raises in her social group. It shows the other women that she can attract a man who is a cut above the rest. 
I mention this because sometimes a wife or girlfriend might get a bit anxious when her man starts dressing in a more masculine way.... because he might start attracting attention from other women.
But it's a win-win situation... everyone will benefit from you expressing your own Alpha Styling! 
It's a Primal Thing.