Sunday, September 28, 2014

Timing is Important

The Suunto watch above is a quality timepiece… the kind that McCall (Denzel Washington) wears in the movie 'The Equalizer.' 

McCall is a retired intelligence officer who believes he has put his special forces past behind him to live a quiet life. However he comes out of retirement to help people who have nowhere else to turn. They call him The Equalizer.

I know a number of Close Protection Operatives (bodyguards) who regard wearing a Suunto watch to be essential.... because split-second timing is important to security professionals.

But is it the right watch for you?  And if not, what would be?  I'd recommend classic Alpha Styling like the watch below.. especially if you want women to be impressed by your choice.

To find out what you might take into consideration when choosing an Alpha Style watch for yourself, click on to this link to the  International Close Quarters Protection Operators Association :

And to watch a trailer of The Equalizer click on this link :

It's a Primal Thing.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Sliding Scale for Polo Shirts

To help men understand how they can maximise their attraction factor, here's a breakdown of how your wife or girlfriend probably sees the polo shirts you wear when you go out with her.

It's actually the same as the sliding scale for shoes.... because that scale can be used to assess any item of clothing you wear.

To highlight what I mean, I asked a few women to rate at the photo above out of 10?  The shorts scored a 1 (bad)... the polo shirt scored a 2 (not good)... but his face scored a 4.

In short, the model makes the outfit look acceptable - at least at first glance. But once the ladies were finished looking at his face and body, they noticed what he was actually wearing, and they were not impressed at all.

1.  So if your wife or girlfriend says "That polo looks OK" –  she means that it's basically a non-event, and you should go and change.

2.  If she says "That polo looks NICE" – she means it looks fine... but it doesn't really make you look attractive in any way... so you basically wasted your money buying that one.

3.  If she says "That polo looks GOOD" – it means that you’re on the right track, but you need to try a little harder.

4.  If she says "That polo looks GREAT" – it means that you have maximised your attraction factor, and you’ve got her complete attention. So go out and buy another one or two just like that.

So always highlight your best masculine features
Use dark or solid colours as the foundation of your wardrobe
Make sure that every item you wear is simple, strong, and functional.

For polo shirts, avoid large logos, and remember that it's less about the brand,
and more about the fit and the quality of the fabric.

It's a Primal Thing.

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Primal Dating in the Far East

Recently I saw an interesting documentary on the dating scene in China… and what struck me was how primal the process actually was.

Firstly, dating over there is not like it is in most western countries. In China it’s a process that directly precedes marriage… clear and simple. If a couple has been dating for a while, then they are considered to be on the path towards marriage. Here in the West it just means that they've been dating for a while.

In the documentary, when young Chinese women were asked what they were looking for in a man, they would often say “Love and romance.” However the women who were running the dating agency expressed a more primal point of view. They said that a potential husband must have the following traits :
  • they must look manly
  • they must have a good character
  • and have a promising career (stable employment).

Interestingly, even though ‘career’ was last on the list, if a man didn’t look like earning reasonable money then he would not really be considered to be a good prospect for marriage.

It's a primal thing... if a man can't effectively perform his role as a protector-provider, then he's not going to be seriously considered as a life-long partner... in spite of how romantic he might be.

The owners of the agency also highlighted what was required from young women :
  • they had to have a good face and figure (ie. the currencies of beauty and sexuality)
  • they had to have pale skin (…which is also a currency of beauty in China)
  • and a charming smile with good teeth (... another aspect of beauty).

When men were asked what they were wanting from the dating agency, most said they were looking to find a nice girl... eventually get married... then have children.

However when women were asked the same question, most said they wanted to get married and have children… and to do that they had to find a nice man who is a good protector-provider.

The overall plan is similar to what men want, but the order of what's important is quite different.... which is why the dating-mating process sometimes gets confusing for both men and women.

Overall, these comparisons of what men and women are looking for highlight the different currencies (values) that the sexes have when it comes to The Primal Game :
  • female youth is a currency in an historical sense because in the past it was necessary to endure the physical challenges of surviving childbirth
  • female health (being slim and fit) is a currency for the same reason… it’s a survival trait
  • female beauty is a currency because humans value beautiful things… we favour anything beautiful, so beauty is also a survival trait.

Men on the other hand have a very different set of currencies that they are expected to offer :
  • a good man doesn’t have to be attractive... but it’s nice if he’s handsome in some way
  • he should have a strong character... which means he won’t leave, or harm his family
  • and he has to be a good protector-provider too… which simply means that he earns enough money to look after his family.

So there you have it… a quick breakdown of The Primal Game that we (men and women) are all hard-wired to have. It’s just Nature’s way of ensuring the survival of the species.

And that brings us to you. Regardless of whether you're married or single, now that you know a little more about how the opposite sex thinks (and why), you can maximise your attraction-factor by always dressing with your own expression of Alpha-styling:
  • always highlight your best masculine features
  • use dark or solid colours as the foundation of your wardrobe
  • and make sure that every item you wear looks simple, strong, and functional.

It's a Primal Thing.

Saturday, September 20, 2014

A Strong and Edgy Look for Summer

For those of you who live south of the equator, a cool fresh look for men can be created by wearing natural colours… like a white shirt with sand or camel coloured pants.

A stronger look is often created by wearing a dark blue shirt or polo with sand pants. However you can create a stronger and slightly more edgy look by wearing a black shirt or polo with sand pants.

Hollywood actor Jonah Hill (photo above) has managed to maximise his attraction-factor by wearing the black and sand combination. And to top it off, his watch, sunglasses and hair-cut all express the masculine basics of Alpha-styling : simple, strong, and functional.

For those of you in the northern hemisphere, you might consider reversing the colour combination by wearing black pants or jeans with a black shirt and a camel jacket.

Finally, although it's trendy right now to wear sneakers with just about anything, you'll make a stronger impression if you wear leather shoes or leather sandals.

You have the option of either black or brown... but try to wear something strong and edgy. Here's a link to my post on understanding the Sliding Scale of Men's Shoes :

It's a Primal Thing.