Saturday, March 22, 2014

Want more Respect? - Want more Sex?

(Photos courtesy of LA Times Magazine)

The 'lost and lonely' image of George Clooney (above) might prompt some women to want to give George a hug and a kiss... but it won't trigger any sexual impulses. And it's the same when men wear extra long baggy-bum shorts and look like 'little boys'... it might trigger the maternal instinct in some women, but it's not going to trigger any primal attraction.

So why do so many men dress like little boys these days? Well it's because it's a fashion trend at present, and we (humans) are hard-wired to follow fashion trends... regardless of whether they actually do anything for us or not.

Why do we follow trends so blindly?  Because of the 3 primal values that influence the way our tribe dresses. Put in simple terms :
  1. we dress to fit-in and be accepted by our tribe 
  2. to be a bit different and raise our status within the tribe
  3. and to be sexually attractive to potential mates within the tribe.
Men tend to be most influenced by #1 and #2 (fitting-in with what the other guys are wearing, but being just a bit different)… whereas women tend to be most influenced by #2 and #3 (raising their status by highlighting their best sexual features).

And this is where most guys get it wrong... they dress in a way that fits-in with what all the other men in their tribe are wearing... rather than dressing in a way that expresses the character traits that the women in their tribe will find attractive.

Note : Fitting-in with the other warrior-hunters in your tribe is a survival trait. We are hard-wired to band together to fight, and to hunt. However fitting-in is not an effective mating behaviour. In fact, when it comes to attracting a sexual partner or a potential mate, you will actually have to compete with all the other men in your tribe. And it's the 'Alpha's' who will be the most respected, and considered to be the most attractive!   

So what are the alpha male traits that will prompt respect from other men, and be sexually attractive to women? They're the timeless traits of the warrior-hunter... a man who is practical... capable and effective... a man who has high standards... and an eye for detail.

And although those traits can be expressed in different ways in different cultures, in our modern western society they translate as the Five Parameters of Alpha Styling :
  • simple... which shows that the man is practical
  • strong... which shows he's capable of getting the job done
  • functional... which shows he's effective in his approach
  • an obvious quality... which shows he has high standards
  • and an understated elegance... which shows he has an eye for detail.

So to get more respect and be sexually attractive:
Dress simple, strong and functional
with an obvious quality and
an understated elegance.

It's a Primal Thing.

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